Who the hell do I think I am to be running my own business?
This is a question I wrestle with daily, sometimes hourly. In the noise of social media, where everyone seems to be an expert on something, it's hard not to feel less than. Our work histories are on display for all to see on LinkedIn, something that was unheard of just a decade or so ago. This constant comparison to others' highlight reels is leading many people to feel unqualified to step out and offer something to the world.
Too often, we saddle ourselves with what Vishen Lakhiani, author of The Code of the Extraordinary Mind, calls "brules" or bulls**t rules. He defines brules as the false rules we adopt to simplify our understanding of the world. One common brule he discusses is the belief that your success should look like someone else’s success.
We buy into this notion that to be successful in business, you must have tens of thousands of followers on social media and earn your stripes as an "expert" by working your way through hot-shot startups or big-name tech companies. The message that gets communicated is that until you've achieved the world's standard of success, don't even bother trying to start your own thing.
But we all know the stories of rogue entrepreneurs who flew in the face of this brule and succeeded wildly! So why do automatically assume we will fail? Of course there are factors besides self doubt that keep people from starting a business and those things shouldn't be ignored. But, for a lot of people, the biggest thing holding them back is themselves!
So, what can we do about it?
tips for overcoming Imposter Syndrome
Recognize Your Worth - Acknowledge your unique skills and experiences. Remember, your journey is different from everyone else's and that’s what makes you unique. Your collective work AND life experiences are your strength.
Shift Your Perspective - Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your progress. Celebrate your milestones, no matter how small they may seem.
Embrace Continuous Learning - Accept that you don't have to know everything. Embrace a growth mindset and commit to continuous learning. One of my favorite quotes is from Eartha Kitt, "I am learning all the time. The tombstone will be my diploma."
Seek Support and Mentorship - Surround yourself with a supportive network of fellow entrepreneurs, mentors, and friends who believe in you and your vision. Their encouragement can help you push through moments of doubt.
Challenge Your Brules - Identify the brules that are holding you back and actively challenge them. Ask yourself why you believe these rules and whether they are truly serving you.
Visualize Success - Spend time visualizing your success. I recommend trying Debbie Millman's Remarkable Life exercise. The linked article guides you through a thorough visualization process.
Take Action - Sometimes the best way to overcome imposter syndrome is to do something! Break your tasks into manageable steps and start working towards them. Action builds momentum and reduces feelings of inadequacy.
Be Kind to Yourself - Understand that everyone makes mistakes and faces setbacks. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend.
Share Your Story - Be open about your journey and struggles. Sharing your story can help others who are experiencing similar feelings and create a sense of community. Plus, it can be incredibly empowering to own your narrative.
Remember Your Why - Remind yourself why you started your business in the first place and let that passion drive you forward.
I believe in you and would love to hear about your unique entrepreneurial journey or your struggles with imposter syndrome. Please share in the comments or book an appointment with me. I’d love to hear your story!
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